Has it ever occurred to you what your sex life will be like in five, 10, 20 and 30 years to come as a couple? Have you ever experienced the best sex of your life? Well, now imagine it getting better. According to our exclusive report, sex never has to stop becoming hotter.
When boys transform from boys to teenagers and later young adults, one of the greatest changes that ever happen is the change in their sexuality. According to scientists, most people are not prepared for such changes and mismanage them due to confusion, myth, delusion and taboo. The best of sex any man will enjoy in his later married life is actually pivoted by the attention given to the changes that occur during this stage. For instance, it is in this stage that the teenage boy starts experiencing night emission or night fall or wet dreams or the feelings of ‘aglow’. This feeling is not only a normal physiological phenomenon; it is a basic human expectation. This is the stage that parental guidance is needful. When parental guidance is lacking, what becomes the norms for a young teenager and adult is watching pornography and masturbation. A teenager can still emerge with a good sexual orientation that will help him adjust sexually under any condition and environment when told the absolute truth with his interest at heart. Science has revealed [regardless of anything anyone posts on the internet] that pornography does not only paint a distorted sexual opinion, it also altogether alters the normal human mind-set of the young ones about an ideal sex, sexual act, sexuality and fantasies. Porn does not set an ideal sex scenario because pornography sex is a script well written and well-acted in which the actors are not only being filmed, the actors are given addictive destructive steroid to make them have a euphoric feelings to act beyond normal human tolerance level.This is also the stage where the effect of pornography or bad peer pressure makes many teenagers and young adults become destructively addicted to masturbation. Contrary to popular opinion, as a medical health provider and a certified sex therapist, I can say that 60 to 64 per cent of the causes of erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, weak erection, poor ejaculation, abnormal curvature of the penis and abnormal shrinking of the penis size has been as a result of addictive, habitual non-stop masturbation of men at any age. And ironically, this habit is normally picked up at the teenage-hood stage which still boils to the fact that the parent has to come out straight with their young ones about sexual awareness and its effect. Scientifically, the vagina is and still remains the only healthy and conducive environment for the penis. As long as the penis is in its normal environment, many dangers will be averted. The pressure and suffocative tension the penis goes through during masturbation [with or without a lubricant] has been the major reasons for the numbness of the penis nerves. And definitely, all these play major roles in the erection, sustenance of erection and turgidity of the penis during foreplay and the actual sexual periods.While couples that get married at 20 years and above have one thing in common-; their testosterone are usually at its peak, at this stage sexual encounter is always an intense, rip-off-your-clothes, explosive sex, or an adventure type of sex, or an escapade which is extremely frequent and continual but in late 30s sexual escapades begins to be steady but slowly and insignificantly decline. Yet couples in their late 30s tend to have heightened orgasms. At this stage, many married couples are sexier, more confident and less concerned about impressing their partners or putting on a show but rather want to have more fun with sex. At this stage, many couples do not bother comparing themselves with sex actors but rather indulge in self-improvement type of sex.
Couples in their early 40s to late 50s want to have sex more often just like the younger couples. This is obvious especially with the women. According to a survey, at this stage though a woman’s vagina begins to lose elasticity and her pelvic floor weakens, and arousal may happen more slowly, arousal is more intense deep and lasting. This is because these women are more emotionally stable and are less cumbersome with raising a family or nursing a child. They are more relaxed and the will to really enjoy sex is at its peak while their sexual appetite is more pronounced than before. At this stage with Kegel exercise and pelvic wall training, many women gain the elasticity of their pelvic wall back in no time. There are also many available natural herbs that could help strengthen both the pelvic floor and vaginal wall of the woman. You can contact me for this.In addition, though the lining of the vagina thins out and many women have less natural lubrication. However, many married women still find sex after menopause very liberating, since the chance of pregnancy is drastically reduced. They are also more likely to engage in sexual experimentations and plan to spend more time on foreplay to achieve this. Many lubricants can help couples maximise this stage to the fullest. The same reduction of hormone production happens in men, but the reduction is not just in such a dramatically short amount of time like the women. In fact, scientists say this decrease in testosterone and growth hormones particularly as a man enters middle age can lead to decreased muscle mass and reduction of vitality and energy. For a lot of husbands as they get older, it is advisable to start checking hormone levels.Sex with couples in their early 60s to late 70s should really get better with age, say researchers. They are of the opinion that age is no barrier to good sex. Although older husbands may not necessarily possess the energy or vigour for impulsive or spontaneous sexual activities the way younger husbands do due to aging. However, the level of desire, arousal, and turgidity of erection is almost at the same level with younger husbands. That is why on this note, scientists concluded that sexual activities at this age bracket should definitely get better by the age. Scientists insist that when couples in this stage make each other feel very important, it will increase their sexual confident level and they will be happier and healthier. Sex at this stage may not appear to be that voracious, fully ravenous, animalistic kind; but it is more peaceful, complete and of a deeper level. Scientists say that what is important to this category of couples at this stage now is waking up next to see someone they were married to because they were in love with them all these years and they still are in love and they are still willing to spend the rest of their lives with them. Moreover, they are willing to enjoy sex to the maximum with them.
Many men think they need to hide their feelings or risk being seen as weak when it comes to expressing their fantasies to their wives. Nevertheless, scientists say that not sharing your emotions can be a real discouragement to many wives, “The woman feels like she’s missing a close sexual connection that she wants with her husband when he is reserved.” So set aside 30 minutes of uninterrupted time together perhaps in the bedroom after the children are asleep in a relaxed setting; sit down together and share your sexual fantasies. Reach out and touch each other, a full-body massage helps stimulate the energy centres, throughout the body, so you’re aroused from head to toe. Start massaging your partner’s hands and wrists, then move up the arms and shoulders until you reach the chest. Next, starting from the feet and ankles, work your way up the legs and thighs until you reach the belly. This sequence helps awaken sexual energy.
Scientists say about 40 per cent of women will discover a breast lump at some point in their lives. Breast lump does not necessarily mean cancer, but women need to be able to separate myths from facts, what a woman does immediately after this discovery of either lump or cancer can mean the difference between survival or not.
The older a woman is, the more frightened that she may get breast cancer but not every breast lump is cancer until proven otherwise, although the lump is more likely to be cancerous in older women who have gone through menopause than in younger women. However, a lump may turn out not to be cancer; it could be a cyst, a fluid-filled sac that can be drained, or an abnormal noncancerous growth such as a fibroadenoma or, much less often, a blood clot that causes lumpiness. It could also be a “pseudo lump,” this is a ‘make believe’ lump caused by hormonal change that is not a lump at all. Whatever the cause, it is important to get any lump evaluated.
Breast cancer is not always accompanied by a lump that one can feel by mere touching the breast. Most cancers are picked up on screening mammograms. One can’t always tell by how a cancerous lump feels from a benign lump, even sometimes some breast cysts could feel scary, if they are deep.
Size is never a good way to decide whether a lump is something to worry about however, women should not ignore any small lump; it may be typically something to worry about. A lump can be cancer even in a woman with no family history. Only five or 10 per cent of breast cancer is hereditary. The majority of women who get breast cancer have no risk factors.
Scientists also explain why some couples may have sexual headache. This they say is pain in the head that often starts during sexual intercourse. Sometimes it lasts for a short time, say between five and 10 minutes. At other times, the pain may last longer than an hour. Those who have suffered migraine, or other types of headaches, are actually more prone to sexual headache. In addition, men are actually more likely to get sex headaches because they tend to do much of the thrusting and moving during sexual intercourse. Essentially, what happens is that a man is afflicted with a headache that is similar to what he would have suffered if he had just completed an overly strenuous exercise activity.
Sex is actually an exercise and you may find it helpful to warm up a little before bringing yourself up to full speed and pace during intercourse. Actually, foreplay helps prevent sexual headaches. Reaching orgasm too quickly may also trigger off this headache. If a spouse is tensed up sexually, he or she may experience rapid increase in blood pressure, which will in turn cause the head to throb with pain. If you have sex headaches, you might want to consider allowing for a slow build-up to orgasm.
On the other hand, some sexual headaches might just be the consequence of adopting certain positions during sexual intercourse. Certain sexual positions can put a strain on some parts of the body or increase the flow of blood to the head. For example, keeping your head hanging down lower than the rest of your body or putting your neck in an awkward and stiff position during sex can cause you to have head pain. Changing your sexual positions or limiting the amount of time spent in those positions can make a vast difference in whether or not you suffer from sex headaches. In addition, incorporating massage into foreplay can help relax those neck muscles that tend to get too tense during sex.
Not only can longer, better-paced sex reduce the risk of sex headaches, but also having sex frequently may actually help you ease migraines and other types of headaches. Until I come your way again with another exciting topic, I remain your one and only devoted loyal sex therapist.
Source- Funmi AKINGBADE
